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1. Optimism. No one if people say honeymoon period is estimated to last for a first year is the most beautiful. Each pair menghadapainya with a positive attitude. In fact, couples before marriage through a long courtship period though, this time filled with excitement and optimism. Things that felt less and are usually very jammed during courtship, it swept away by optimism. Everyone was hoping, after marrying her partner will change, if not now then he will also change. Optimism is what will also help couples deal with problems large and small that could arise due to changes in lifestyle are enormous: from single life to domestic life.

2. Mapping Problem. Then what problems that often arise during the honeymoon? Which primarily is a matter about money. Kalu before marriage, each party may freely set their own spending, after marrying the pattern would not last much longer. In addition to personal needs, there are household needs that must be addressed together. The question: who would manage it and how its allocation?
Another problem is no less complicated, especially working couples, is to arrange a schedule to enjoy the togetherness. Quite a few people, men and women, who demanded a longer together because they think when it's meant to be more often married together. The division of tasks and responsibilities within the household also raises its own problems, especially if there are no helpers.

3. Ideal The Dangerous view. While there is optimism that can help overcome the problems above can be difficult to resolve if each party should ideally fixated on the idea of ​​marriage. Almost every person entering the married life with their own ideals. For example, the wife had to yield to her husband, the husband and wife are equal, the wife should be able to manage her husband and others. Ideal view is usually derived from personal experience, particularly exemplifies the pattern of domestic life her parents.

The danger, the idealism of this kind can interfere with the formation of genuine intimacy. With the idealism, the couple's relationship be forced to fit a relationship in view of the role ideally. For example, if you consider an ideal husband and wife are domiciled par, then you will definitely try to make it happen. While the husband wanted dinomorsatukan position, because according to the husband the man should be more "powerful" than his wife. This time it happens, small problems can become serious, especially when the honeymoon period has passed and optimism subsided. Even minor problems such as who determines the television show that will develop into bitter disputes.

4. How is Handle? First: The first thing to do after marriage is to foster good communication with your partner. Discuss all issues, no matter how small it is, openly and do not let any problems that block. The point is not to delay revealing wedge because you think it will change later anyway. When the change is never arrived, a wedge that you are mounting and may be buried honeymoon period is over. Second: throw away your concept of an ideal marriage, and find their own form of relationship that can really be applied in your household. It was hard work, because you'll both be doing a lot of compromise, discussion and even argument. This is better done during your honeymoon, because this is when the foundation of good housekeeping is usually formed. Moreover, the argument generally faster subside during this period.

5. Who is Sovereign? At the beginning of marriage many couples who do the "struggle" for power within the household. It came out as the winner is the party most banyakmemegang control all domestic issues. In this case it is advisable to remove the desire to dominate the household like that, and try to be more flexible. We recommend that all provisions in the household was decided in a democratic way and tailored to the needs. Like, is there a need to set aside income for both parents, whether there should be a rigid division of the husband and wife only take care of the office while taking care of the household - complete with all the determination is there or did kerepotannya-week Saturday as a day of family that does not dpat inviolable, and so on. There was no absolute standard that can be followed, because every couple should try it for yourself. For that, good communication is the key to the success of the household.

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